4 Ways to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Have you ever compared yourself or your life to someone else's? Within the past couple weeks I caught myself doing that more and more often. It would start off with a very small comparison and next thing I knew that small thought had birthed a full fledged competition within me. It sounds crazy but the more I talked to people about it, it seemed like that was something a lot of people struggle with.

You know when you get a new car, and suddenly you start to see a whole bunch of those same cars on the road? You never realized it before, but now that you have one, you're more aware of it. I kind of felt like that with this blog.

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I never realized how many people have blogs until I started one of my own. I started checking out other blogs and it was very easy to get discouraged. I instantly started comparing mine to theirs and next thing I knew BOOM! I was in competition mode. This blog was created to empower and encourage, yet for a moment, I lost sight of that.

About a week ago one of my good friends came over for dinner. We were laughing and having fun, but it was on my heart to share with her what I had been struggling with. It was random and I didn't know why it was so heavy on my heart to tell her, but I did. She revealed to me that earlier in the day, she had wanted to write a post on her blog but didn't because of me. I would have never known that I was hindering her from doing something she loves. I encouraged her and reminded her that God has her on a journey and we are on the same team. She may be able to reach people that I could never reach, and vice versa.

It's easy to allow the negative thoughts of comparison to take root in your heart. It can be through something as simple as a blog, or comparing yourself to what you see in magazines or social media. Today, I challenge you to take hold of those thoughts and stop comparing yourself to others!

There is only one version of yourself. You have a calling and purpose, and no one can stop that. Instead of comparing and competing with others, start to empower and encourage.

Don't lose sight of why you started. It's not a competition. What God has for you is only for you! Remember, someone else's success is not your failure!

Here are 4 ways to help you stop comparing yourself to others: 

1. Stop being afraid to be yourself - There is only one you; you are unique and beautiful.

2. Focus on your purpose - God made you to be you and to pursue the purpose he has for you, not for someone else.

3. Celebrate others - Remember, its not a competition. Practice turning your jealous thoughts into sincere compliments.

4. Accept the journey - We all have a different journey; learn to embrace your own.

In what areas of your life do you struggle with comparison? What are some other ways you think you can overcome it? I'd love to hear from you so feel free to leave a comment below!

XO,
Mel